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Everyone please think of your biggest personal goal.Okay? For real, you can take a second;you got to feel this to learn it.Take a few seconds and think of your personal biggest goal.Okay?
Imagine deciding right now that you are going to do it;imagine telling someone that you need today what you are going to do;imagine their congratulations and their high image of you—doesn’t it feel good to say it out loud? Don’t you feel…one step closer already like it’s become part of your identity? Well, bad news, you should’ve kept your mouth shut, cos that good feeling now would make you le likely to do it.The repeated psychology tests have proven that telling someone your goal makes them le likely to happen.Anytime you have a goal, there’s some steps that need to be done, some work that needs to be done in order to achieve it.Ideally you will not be satisfied until you’ve actually done the work.But when you tell someone your goal, and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it’s called “social reality” that the mind is kind of tricked in the feeling that it’s already done.And then because you felt that satisfaction, you are le motivated to do the actual hard work neceary.So this goes against the conventional wisdom that we should tell our friends our goals, right? So they hold it to it…hold us to it…yeah.So hmm…let’s look at the proof.1926, Kurt Lewin founder of social psychology called this substitution;1933, Wera Mahler found when it was acknowledged by others it felt real in the mind;1982, Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this;and in 2009, he did some…hmm…new tests that were published.Goes like this:
163 people, acro four separate tests, everyone wrote down their personal goal.Then half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the room, and half didn’t.And then everyone was given 45 minutes of work that would directly lead them toward their goal.But they were told they could stop at any time.Now those who kept their mouth shut worked the entire 45 minutes on average, and when asked afterwards, had said that they felt they had a long way to go still to achieve their goal.But those who had announced it, quit after only 33 minutes on average, and when asked afterwards, said that they felt much closer to achieving their goal.So, if this is true, what can we do?
Well, you could resist the temptation to announce your goal;you can delay the gratification that these social acknowledgement brings;and you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing.But if you do need to talk about something, you could say that in a way that gives you no satisfaction, such as “I really want to run this Marathon, so I need to train 5 times a week and kick my a if I don’t, okay?”
So audience, next time you’re tempted to tell someone your goal, what will you say? Exactly!Well done!
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